Love changes people and I realized that when I fell in love. Almost 5 years ago, I met this guy who I never thought would be such an important part of my life. I was a different person back then. I admit it, I was selfish and the world revolved around me (according to me). Physical beauty was of utmost importance to me. I judged people on their appearance. I secretly wished to look like the women in Vogue, Harper’s Bazaar and Allure. I had issues with my self-esteem and there were people (mostly family) who constantly made me feel bad about myself. My life was incomplete and messed up. I was ambitious and always dreamed of achieving something in life. My ambition was an outlet to get rid of my inner pain and conflict. I never searched for love nor did I want it. But they say, some of the best things are found when you don’t search for them. That’s how I found my sweetheart D. For some reason, I believe it was divine intervention. My life changed after this smite of fate. In these 5 years I have grown as a person. Here are five things I learned from love.
1. Beauty can get your attention but personality can capture your heart.
The world is filled with beautiful people (physically of course). There is always someone prettier, smarter or stronger than you are. What sets you apart from the crowd is your personality. Personality is not to be confused with outer attractiveness. It is a combination of qualities and characteristics that makes a person unique. It is the way you walk, talk, handle situations and behave with others.
When I met D, I was floored by his personality. He was a live wire, full of energy. He knew how to make friends and keep them for life. He was a simple guy who tried to be happy in the worst of situations. He had this unbelievable ability to make me laugh in situations where I wanted to be left alone. His personality captured my heart for good.
2. You are beautiful, just the way you are.
Like I mentioned before, I had low self-esteem. I tried to be somebody else. Women know this, I criticized myself ruthlessly. I read fashion magazines and admired the flawless women that graced their covers. They had porcelain white skin that was devoid of any freckles or wrinkles. Their chiseled faces and near perfect bodies could make anyone feel downcast. I lived in isolation, didn’t make friends and shied away from the crowd.
D accepted me the way I was. He made me feel beautiful and I fell n love with myself all over again. He had no qualms about me being skinny. He looked beyond my physicality and embraced the person I was. I realized that flaws only make us unique. What the world conceives to be an imperfection is the very characteristic the makes us who we are. I adore D and I think he’s perfect for me.
3. Love lifted me.
Love can change you in ways you wouldn’t expect. A relationship will make you a better person, if it doesn’t, it’s not worth your time and effort. With love comes jealousy and possessiveness. These may not be desirable traits but they are important in a relationship. Jealousy shows how much you want a person and possessiveness means you consider them to be your own. True love is nourishment for your soul.
D changed my life. I have noticed the difference. I have learned to deal with problems more effectively. I am still very ambitious but I no longer use it as an outlet for my inner turmoil. My life has started to make sense and I’m grateful for everything that happened (which includes meeting D). I know how it feels to be loved and I believe in spreading this heavenly feeling.
4. Hope is what keeps us going.
I’ve always had faith in myself and believe in the power of hope. I never give up easily and look for possible ways to solving a particular problem. Impossible is nothing if you believe in yourself and your abilities. I know it is not as easy as it seems. Sometimes it is difficult to be hopeful when you have no other option but to accept your fate. You can change your fate and write your own destiny but for this you need to keep faith. A very powerful way to change your destiny and get what you want is a secret called ‘The Law of Attraction’ (I have written a post on how to effectively use it). I have started to use it consciously to create the reality I want for myself.
D has always been supportive of me. There were times when I lost hope but D believed in me and brought me back on my feet. Life is easier when you have someone to fall back on.
5. True love is about sacrifice.
Sacrifice is the by-product of love. It is only when you love a person that you place their needs above your own. I learned the meaning of sacrifice from my parents. I admire them for their selfless love. I remember my mother once telling me, “You are just like me. Someday when you have a family of your own you will understand. You will willingly give your all to them and that will make you happy”. After I fell in love with D, I understood what mom meant to say.
D means everything to me. All I want is to see him happy. It’s an indescribable feeling when you see your loved one smile because of you. When D is happy, I feel a sense of achievement like I’ve done something great. D’s smile lights up my life. My selfless love for D has extended to my family and friends. I have learned to give without any expectations, thanks to D.
Love is an amazing feeling whether you are the giver or the receiver. It can make you, break you but above all it can teach you what life alone cannot. I know many of you probably have the same opinions because love is a universal feeling. I would like to know how love has changed you and the 5 things you learned from love.
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